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This is being human – you get angry, you get hurt, you yell and say things you don’t mean – and then you circle back and you’re accountable.
Otherwise kids hit adulthood and they don’t know how to deal with conflict.” She says that she does not look for anything particular in a man: “Maybe I should get a checklist – I’ve never had one. What really changes is that the priority in a relationship becomes fierce honesty and comfort with oneself. As opposed to, ‘I’m going to put this mask on and pretend I’m this person.’” Recently she bumped into a friend who had been married for 40 years.
Aged seven, she was an extra on a Martin Scorsese film that her mother was shooting, Alice Doesn’t Live Here Anymore, eating an ice-cream cone in a scene at a diner.
The scene was shot 19 times and afterwards Scorsese said to her mother: “If she can eat an ice-cream cone 19 times, she’s got to be an actress.” Knowing that the job can entail repeated knockbacks, her parents tried to discourage their daughter, but Dern was smitten.
Most couples don’t hide that they fight from their children, whereas in our parents’ generation you hid everything.
A therapist would now tell you that it’s good to fight in front of them as long as they can see the resolution.
And that is really the thing that calls me to the material often: something I struggle to understand in human behaviour.” In The Fault in Our Stars, based on the bestselling novel by John Green, Dern plays a “progressive hippie mother” struggling with the knowledge that her daughter Hazel, played by Shailene Woodley, is dying of cancer.
Over the years she has dated several high-profile actors, including Nicolas Cage and Billy Bob Thornton – to whom she was engaged until he famously left her for Angelina Jolie.
But, like me, they never really knew a mom and dad sitting down at the table for dinner every night.
So I think that creates an easier transition.” Dern’s own parents divorced when she was two and, in effect, her grandmother brought her up. I was so lucky to have her.” She spent many weekends in Malibu with her father, who famously “shot dead” John Wayne in The Cowboys (1972), and describes her childhood as happy – “although I was like any other kid who missed their mom because she had to work, but that was my only real negative”.
“He has a very beautiful marriage to his amazing wife, and I said, ‘How did you guys do it?
’ And he said, ‘The key is we never wanted a divorce on the same day.’ That is the most romantic thing I’ve ever heard.” At first I think she is joking but she is not. Dern regrets none of the choices she has made in her life, either personal or professional: “I guess the only regret I’ve had is how much time I’ve wasted regretting.” She has made sacrifices, such as giving up her degree in journalism and psychology before she graduated.